Is it weird…
That on Thursday night I hung out with my ex-boyfriend Jason and his girlfriend Sarah? Let me mention that he wasn’t just a boyfriend I dated for a few months, I was with him for two years. He’s the one I moved to Florida with, he’s the reason I’m even in this stupid state! He was a horrible boyfriend; he never spent anytime with me, always picked his friends over me, cheated on me more than once, and he slept with my friend. And, now we hang out? Yep.
Sarah and him started coming up to my work a few months back, and when I first caught his eye I thought to myself “Oh, shiz….this isn’t what I need right now.” Instead of getting all mad I figured I’d be civil and ask him how things were going in his life…And to my surprise he wasn’t at all cocky, and Sarah was really friendly, and I could tell she wasn’t just being fake. So, they both started coming up to my work more and more, and I would sit and talk to them, we’d laugh, and oddly not feel uncomfortable at all.
For awhile she had been asking me if I wanted to hang out, but something always came up so it never happened until last Thursday. We all went and played miniature golf, and afterwards we went to some dive-redneck bar, and after that we went and hung out at my work.
Everyone thinks that they’re trying to get me to have a threesome. It wouldn’t surprise me if Jason wanted one because he’s a freak that way, but if Sarah agreed to something like that she’d have to be an idiot. I’m his ex for heaven’s sake! Let me also put out there that I would never have a threesome anyway, that just ain’t my bag. It’s weird though…Jason still looks at me in a certain way. I mean, I know him, and the way he looks at me it’s like he still has feelings for me, or wants me or something. I thought I still had feelings for him still at first, but then I faced reality… He did me so wrong when we were together that I could never feel anything for him again.
I think Sarah wants to hang out with me because she doesn’t trust him, and wants to know his dirt. The other night she was asking me tones of questions about girls he’s slept with and whatnot. She even said she doesn’t think he would not cheat on her. I dunno.
I just hang out with them because I have almost zero friends in Florida, mostly everyone I know are acquaintances. Having a girl friend to talk to is nice, even if she’s my ex-boyfriend’s girlfriend.
What do you think? Should I not hang out with them?
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June 21st, 2008 at 3:35 pm
I don’t see why not but I’m surprised your boyfriend isn’t freaking out about it! I totally know what you mean when you *know* someone so you can see right through them. My ex and I could totally still communicate non-verbally if I ran into him. He could raise his eyebrows a certain way and I could read it and know exactly what he was trying to tell me. More so than Donny I’m afraid, although I guess it’s fair ’cause I knew my ex a lot longer and we went to school together so lots of non-verbal talking across classrooms.
If you like this girl and you think you’d hang out with her if you met her at work or somewhere else, then hang out with her. If you are only hanging out with her because there’s no one else to hang out with, I’d pass. I’m not that far from home but I’m a couple towns away and don’t have a car, so I definitely feel you on feeling homesick and not knowing anyone. I’ve been wanting to take a class or something or get a crappy PT job soley to try to meet friends. :/
June 21st, 2008 at 3:37 pm
James actually doesn’t like me hanging out with them, he also thinks they want to have a threesome or something. But I told him he has to trust me. He hates Jason.
June 21st, 2008 at 10:18 pm
Hmm, if it doesn’t feel weird for you then I see no problem. BUT.. maybe they do want something b/c why else would they be all friendly to an ex? Especially her!
June 21st, 2008 at 10:57 pm
I kinda feel like you aren’t given yourself what you deserve! Just the whole thing about “having a girlfriend is nice, even if she’s my ex-boyfriend’s girlfriend”… I think you should definitely just make those acquaintances friends!
I don’t think Sarah and Jason, no matter how decent they seem to be, will benefit you, especially when you’re in a new place (perhaps looking for a fresh start)?
June 22nd, 2008 at 10:49 pm
I would say as long as you are over your ex then hanging out is just that. I mean maybe she could turn into your friend, even if they asked you to have a threesome- you have standards against it. At the same time you should be respectful of Jason’s wishes. I wouldn’t go around his back to hang out with them, but maybe also explain to Jason how you want some friends around, not just aquantices.
June 22nd, 2008 at 11:50 pm
Its always weird to do things like that with your ex and not feel uncomfortable about it. For me it is anyways, I feel really uncomfortable and end up having all these bottled up feelings lingering on. But thats just me.
June 23rd, 2008 at 12:34 am
Thanks for the bday wishes, so sweet
Okay… he probably still looks at you in a “certain” way because (1) you’re his ex and he’s probably imagining you naked lol, and (2) he’s a guy, and guys look at any thing that’s 2-legged and female in that way, lol. Sad, but so true.
I say… hang out with them if you want. Don’t worry about it being your ex, because if you feel NOTHING, then there’s nothing to worry about or feel “guilty” about, if that’s your current worry.
And why do BFs always treat you like crap???????? Gah, men suck.
June 25th, 2008 at 3:50 pm
do what your gut tells you to do. If she wants to hear the dirt about him or if your uncomfortable around her or them then leave them be.
June 25th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
You are wayyy more open about this sort of thing than I would have been. Even though I broke up with my ex, it still would bother me immensely seeing him with a new girlfriend. Being friends with them wouldn’t be right for me… I’d have constant mental images of our past sexual encounters, and knowing that this new girl is now having sex with my old boyfriend would just be an “EWWW” thing for me. Even though I ended the relationship, I still prefer convincing myself that he’s miserable without me. Haha, I’m closed minded like that, I’ll admit it!
Honestly, I don’t know these people so I can’t give you any proper advice on what to do. But, I tend to think that if the relationship didn’t work out with this guy, I don’t think being friends with him would be much better, even if his new GF is nice. There’s probably a lot of “history” there, and I imagine it would be awkward. Do what you feel is right… if you enjoy hanging out with them, then do it. If it makes you uncomfortable, politely tell them so and make your way out of the situation.
June 28th, 2008 at 5:37 am
uhhh.. I really don’t know waht to think,, cause I do not think about that sort of stuffs in my case.. but hey, I just make sure I act normal and am moving on with my life,, unless I still have the same feelings, I will make sure I make a closure out of it…
June 29th, 2008 at 2:27 am
It kinda sounds messy and like a disaster about to happen. Also, your ex sounds like a major douchebag and he doesnt deserve to be friends with people he mistreated. Is it possible that you and Sarah can be friends, without, Ionno hanging out with Jason?